Hi Everyone!

Two things:

1) If you are someone interested in receiving support in the aftermath of an affair and having trouble registering on this site, please feel free to email me HERE. I have had to turn off auto-registrations due to the overwhelming number of spammers creating fake accounts.

2) The new forum (since www.Affairhealing.com closed) has been up and running for around 9 months now. I am wondering if it makes sense to keep it going when the renewals come up. Unfortunately, I do not have the time to put into marketing the forum so it ranks well in searches when people are looking for help/resources. As more of our old forum members move past needing the same level of support/interaction, they are rarely posting. And since we aren't attracting new people, the site is stagnant. At this point the only people I think I am helping are spammers looking for a place to register fake accounts.

I REALLY want to use my experiences to help others who find themselves on this painful path, but I fear that my lack of time to blog and market the site is dooming it to not be the resource I had hoped it to be. Feel free to post your thoughts about whether I should try to keep it up for another year or reach out to me via direct message.

Thrive

The Wayward Spouse (WS)

An area for Wayward Spouses (WS) to share their struggles in the aftermath of their affair. A note to Betrayed Spouses (BS) and Affair Partners (AP) - You are welcome to reply to posts in this section. Keep in mind, however, that the intent of this site is to foster healing for ALL parties affected. While a truthful answer may not be easy for a WS to read, it should be delivered with compassion and the INTENT of helping and educating rather than to hurt, belittle or intimidate. Any posts that do not follow this guideline will be removed. Wayward Spouses - Betrayed Spouses may comment on your posts. Try to keep an open mind. What may seem angry or hurtful, may in fact be just the honest rendering of a painful truth. That being said, if at any time you feel that you are being bullied, please immediately notify the administrator.

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I Cheated. Now What?

Discussion regarding the experiences and perspectives of the unfaithful spouse. Betrayed Spouses (BS) and Affair Partners (AP) - if you choose to respond, remember that the intent of this forum is to provide a safe space for healing for all parties affected by an affair. Any post that is seen as intentionally inflammatory, cruel, or rude will be removed. Hard truths can be shared in considerate and respectful language. If you don't think you can, then do not post.

Confused About What To Do Next

Discussion around the confusion about what to do next many Wayward Spouses face.

How Can I Help My Spouse Heal?

Discussion regarding how the Wayward Spouse can help heal the marriage and support their spouse through the reconciliation and rebuilding process.

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I thought this was closed.

By Exhausted, 1 year ago
RE: Forum Closing

Yes, thank you very much for all of your effort and sup...

By Doc Nietzsche, 3 years ago
RE: Forum Closing

I’m glad I found this before it closed. Thanks for tryi...

By Exhausted, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Okay. Thanks for keeping this going as long as you did....

By Doc Nietzsche, 3 years ago
Forum Closing

Hey everyone - The renewal for this forum is coming u...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Doc - I doubt anything is going to feel right for a w...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Thank you to @skelling, @exhausted, and @redhairedyoda ...

By Doc Nietzsche, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

This pretty much sums up my fears from the beginning.

By Exhausted, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Sorry, everyone, I made some changes to the site a litt...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 3 years ago

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