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ThriveNotSurvive

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Joined: 2021-04-22

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Betrayed Spouse (BS), married 29 years, DD back in May 2016, One 10 month on and off again affair when husband was having to live in another city for almost two years.

One adult daughter. 4 cats and 1 dog (all rescues). Marketing and Event Executive with my own company, but also took a detour/sabbatical a few years back and became a hypnotherapist. After a couple of years in practice, I moved to a new city and I went back to my first love - marketing with a specialty in events.

My husband and I are fully reconciled and happy in our relationship - but it took a lot of work for both of us to get there.

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Our ability to choose the lens through which we see our life experiences is our superpower. Choose what heals you - not what causes suffering. There is truth in both.

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I thought this was closed.

By Exhausted, 1 year ago
RE: Forum Closing

Yes, thank you very much for all of your effort and sup...

By Doc Nietzsche, 2 years ago
RE: Forum Closing

I’m glad I found this before it closed. Thanks for tryi...

By Exhausted, 2 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Okay. Thanks for keeping this going as long as you did....

By Doc Nietzsche, 2 years ago
Forum Closing

Hey everyone - The renewal for this forum is coming u...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 2 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Doc - I doubt anything is going to feel right for a w...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 2 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Thank you to @skelling, @exhausted, and @redhairedyoda ...

By Doc Nietzsche, 2 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

This pretty much sums up my fears from the beginning.

By Exhausted, 2 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Sorry, everyone, I made some changes to the site a litt...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 2 years ago

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