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Hi Everyone!

Two things:

1) If you are someone interested in receiving support in the aftermath of an affair and having trouble registering on this site, please feel free to email me HERE. I have had to turn off auto-registrations due to the overwhelming number of spammers creating fake accounts.

2) The new forum (since www.Affairhealing.com closed) has been up and running for around 9 months now. I am wondering if it makes sense to keep it going when the renewals come up. Unfortunately, I do not have the time to put into marketing the forum so it ranks well in searches when people are looking for help/resources. As more of our old forum members move past needing the same level of support/interaction, they are rarely posting. And since we aren't attracting new people, the site is stagnant. At this point the only people I think I am helping are spammers looking for a place to register fake accounts.

I REALLY want to use my experiences to help others who find themselves on this painful path, but I fear that my lack of time to blog and market the site is dooming it to not be the resource I had hoped it to be. Feel free to post your thoughts about whether I should try to keep it up for another year or reach out to me via direct message.

Thrive

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By ThriveNotSurvive, 4 years ago

We have created a community to help support those who are experiencing the aftermath of an affair. We encourage all those affected - the Betrayed Spouse (BS), the Wayward Spouse (WS), and the Other Person (OP) to interact in the community here. It is our belief that these interactions, when conducted with honesty tempered with compassion can be illuminating and healing for all. However, in any situation where emotions run this high, policies of acceptable behavior need to be outlined. Find them here.

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Good Behavior Policy

By ThriveNotSurvive, 4 years ago

The Betrayed Spouse (BS)

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Your Story

Share your story here! Other members can refer to it when seeking to understand your situation better, in an effort to help answer your posts.

Forum Closing

By Doc Nietz...

3 years ago
I Fell On Black Days.....

By Doc Nietz...

3 years ago
It's a chapter, not the whole book

By FeelingHo...

3 years ago
A whole raft of cobblers...

By Experienc...

4 years ago
blindsighted

By Skelling

4 years ago
ThriveNotSurvive's Story

By ThriveNot...

4 years ago

I Suspect an Affair

Discussions related to having suspicion regarding a partner's unfaithfulness.

I Just Found Out

Discussions regarding the recent revelations of a partner's unfaithfulness.

What Happens Next?

Discussions regarding the confusion and the choices that must be considered in the aftermath of an affair.

Spaghettis

By ThriveNot...

3 years ago

Why Did This Happen, What I Need to Know & Boundaries

Discussions regarding many of the key topics that weigh heavily on Betrayed Spouses' minds after the revelation of a partner's affair. Why did this happen? What do I need to know to make decisions about my future? How can I create healthy boundaries?

Bloody triggers.....

By notemanj

3 years ago
same struggles or new ones?

By Skelling

3 years ago

Reconciliation & Rebuilding Our Marriage

Discussion regarding all elements of reconciliation - whether it is the most appropriate choice for you, what to look for, resources, and suggestions from those who have already walked this path, or are currently.

Trust rebuilding and watchfulness

By ThriveNot...

3 years ago
complex ptsd

By Skelling

4 years ago

Separation and Divorce

Discussions surrounding the choice to seek a separation or divorce.

Survival Strategies

Discussions relating to methods, tools, and concepts that may help members move through the pain and anguish to healing and ultimately, to allow them to thrive once again.

How is every doing this holiday season?

By ThriveNot...

3 years ago

The Wayward Spouse (WS)

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I Cheated. Now What?

Discussion regarding the experiences and perspectives of the unfaithful spouse. Betrayed Spouses (BS) and Affair Partners (AP) - if you choose to respond, remember that the intent of this forum is to provide a safe space for healing for all parties affected by an affair. Any post that is seen as intentionally inflammatory, cruel, or rude will be removed. Hard truths can be shared in considerate and respectful language. If you don't think you can, then do not post.

Confused About What To Do Next

Discussion around the confusion about what to do next many Wayward Spouses face.

How Can I Help My Spouse Heal?

Discussion regarding how the Wayward Spouse can help heal the marriage and support their spouse through the reconciliation and rebuilding process.

Off-Topic

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Testing Stuff

This is my area to test things like word filters, bear with me.

Testing

By Exhausted

1 year ago
Sorry I have been absent

By ThriveNot...

3 years ago
Testing the language filter

By Experienc...

4 years ago

The Affair Partner (AP) /Other Person (OP)

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Where Do I Go From Here?

Discussions regarding the experiences and perspectives of an Affair Partner (AP). Note to the Affair Partner - You may receive replies from ex-Wayward Spouses or Betrayed Spouses that will feel harsh. Please remember that the purpose of your sharing here is to get honest replies and to understand this situation from perspectives other than your own. That may not always be easy to read. Note to Betrayed Spouses (BS) and Wayward Spouses (WS) - If you choose to respond to a post, please remember that the purpose of this forum is to facilitate healing in all those affected by an affair. Hard truths can be stated with respect and compassion. If you do not think you can post with respect and compassion, then don't. Any posts seen as crossing the line into cruelty or bashing will be removed and if more than one is found, the user will be deleted.

Moving On

Discussion topics for Affair Partners struggling with ending an affair or walking away after an affair has been revealed.

Testing

I thought this was closed.

By Exhausted, 1 year ago
RE: Forum Closing

Yes, thank you very much for all of your effort and sup...

By Doc Nietzsche, 3 years ago
RE: Forum Closing

I’m glad I found this before it closed. Thanks for tryi...

By Exhausted, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Okay. Thanks for keeping this going as long as you did....

By Doc Nietzsche, 3 years ago
Forum Closing

Hey everyone - The renewal for this forum is coming u...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Doc - I doubt anything is going to feel right for a w...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Thank you to @skelling, @exhausted, and @redhairedyoda ...

By Doc Nietzsche, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

This pretty much sums up my fears from the beginning.

By Exhausted, 3 years ago
RE: I Fell On Black Days.....

Sorry, everyone, I made some changes to the site a litt...

By ThriveNotSurvive, 3 years ago

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Hi Everyone!

Two things:

1) If you are someone interested in receiving support in the aftermath of an affair and having trouble registering on this site, please feel free to email me HERE. I have had to turn off auto-registrations due to the overwhelming number of spammers creating fake accounts.

Thrive

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